1) Show interest
When a job seeker is feeling discouraged or “less than,” a simple question about how they are doing with their search can make a big difference. Don’t dismiss or minimize their progress. Get across that you know that they are more than their occupation/employment status.
2) Offer assistance, not advice (unless asked)
It’s a fine line between being helpful and being aggressive. You may have great job search suggestions to offer, but if they are presented in a way that is perceived as being pushy, they won’t be taken into consideration. Pressuring someone never works. For spouses – this isn’t to say you can’t say something if they are obviously slacking, but find out first WHY they are not focusing on their search and make a plan together going forward. For friends – besides being there to listen, communicate to them that you care, have had success with a certain resume format in the past (for example) and are there to lend a hand.
3) Play a part in their search
This can take many forms:
– help with a mock interview or phone screen – you ask the questions
– proofread their resume/cover letter
– see if you have any social media connections at their target company
4) Provide a break
Make this time a “no job search talk” zone. Seek out low cost activities:
– take a walk
– rent a funny movie
– play a board game
– try a new recipe
– go to the library
While these may seem like common sense tips, it can be easy to overlook the obvious – especially during such a stressful time. Looking for a job is an emotional journey for everyone – not just the job seeker. It impacts the spouse/partner, children, siblings, friends, and so on down the line.
What about you? Have you ever helped a loved one during their job search? What worked? What didn’t?
Looking for more job search advice? Check out this post: 4 Ways To Rise Above Job Search Rejection.
A version of this post originally appeared on LinkedIn.
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